Thanks, Dad

This Tuesday morning, my father, Robert Weagley, Jr. passed away at the age of 90. As with many of you, my father was my best friend and, perhaps, my best teacher – although he never attended college.

I want to say a few things that I’m reminded of at this time. The first two are related to the plans for his funeral. The third is an example he set for all of us.

Dad had a prepaid burial plan. He picked out a casket to match my mother’s. He chose the music he wants played at his life’s celebration. He asked for a military salute. As I live two hours from where the ceremony will take place, this relieved my family of some travel and weighty decisions. I encourage you to make your desires known for your final ceremony. Write your letter of instructions, get a will, review the ownership of your assets, and talk about the inevitable. If you do not know if your parents have done some of these tasks, ask them. You’ll be glad you did. I am so lucky that he acted to remove pressures from us at this time.

Secondly, prepaid burial plans don’t cover everything. For one, sales taxes are suspended until delivery of the goods. As dad was living in a nursing home, close to my residence, we will pay $1 per mile to transport his body back to his hometown. Of course, being 120 miles from the funeral home where he purchased the plan, the involvement of a local funeral home was required as an intermediary, adding to the final cost. He did not pre-purchase flowers from our family. (Nor should he have purchased them!) While I’ve not seen the final cost, I estimate the cost for two easels of lilies to be about $450. Finally, he suggested having the funeral at the funeral home, as there would be no additional costs. (He could be frugal!) Here, I diverted from his plan and moved the service to the church where he had been a member of for 60 years. A church service usually entails an honorarium for the minister and the organist. This will be another $300. I don’t know what the costs are for the flag to be draped over his casket or the honor guard – if any. Still, I am so lucky that dad made the hard decisions and made this quite easy for our family!

Finally, his example for us and, please, excuse me, if I’ve told this story before. I do, however, think it to be an important testament to his life and a lesson for all. From his obituary: “Following the Korean War, Bob set three goals for himself: to own a farm, to own a Cadillac, and to be mayor of Liberty. His quiet determination and trustworthy character led to the achievement of all.” Not many people can say that and no one can say it, if they don’t set goals. I owe my life and my opportunities to my father making a commitment to the things that were important to him. I have to conclude that he achieved success, both in finance and in life. Thanks, dad.

(If you’d like to read more about dad, his obituary is linked here.)

- Robert O. Weagley, Ph.D., CFP(r)

Chair, Personal Financial Planning

University of Missouri

Columbia, MO 65211

School Year Resolutions

To paraphrase a Jimmy Buffet song, “We’ve all got ‘em and some stick better than others”. Here are some I’d recommend for the students in the readership that are serious about their long-run plan for financial success.

· Write your personal values statement. - I know this sounds a little too 1960ish but take some time and make a list of the values you embrace. Think of them as those one-word statements of what you’d like your life to represent. For example, the University of Missouri’s values are Respect, Responsibility, Discovery, and Excellence. I’m not sure of yours but, if someone were to write your eulogy, what would they say about you? What would you like them to say about you? (Your values will probably come from the latter list and, if you’re lucky, the lists are identical.)

· Set goals – What are your goals for the school year? Greater grade point average? Improved performance in sports? One-hundred percent attendance? Involvement in a student group? Better track record in doing your homework, readings, and other assignments – on time? Visualize reaching your goals – all of them. Write your goals down. Tell your roommate or parents about them. Make decisions that support them. Stick to them, even when the occasional wave washes away your progress.

· Get connected to the industry you want to work in. – Do you have an idea about where you’d like to spend your time in gainful employment? If so, find someone in that line of work and ask them if you can interview them about their life’s work. See if you can job-shadow them for a day. If the career feels right, look for a mentor to help you with the inevitable choices you are going to make over the next few months and years. Consider doing an internship to “test drive” an occupation. Often, I have found, students that do “unpaid” internships have fantastic experiences. You can learn a lot about yourself and a company, from four to eight weeks of life experience in their world.

· Go to a professional conference. – This one may be a tad expensive but if there is a meeting with many professionals present that are engaged in the line of work you’re pursuing, go to the meeting. Look for local, less expensive opportunities. When you are at the meeting, talk to people. Ask them questions. Don’t be afraid to ask someone to dance. (This is code for “not being afraid to talk to people and ask them to help you.” It is for certain that, if you don’t ask them, they won’t dance with you! You’ll be surprised how “old-folks” like to help “young people”.)

· Visit the local Chamber of Commerce. – While you’re there, ask for a list of members. Check out the members you think might provide you with opportunities to advance your goals. Firms that are very active within their communities tend to be very interested in others.

· Identify a weakness. – Everybody has one (or two) that they’d like to work on. Perhaps yours is public speaking. If so, practice until you gain confidence. Writing? Then, write letters to your friends, improve your emails or seek help from one of your teachers. Dress? Go to a workshop on professional etiquette and dress. Ask for some pointers from a quality clothing store. Weight? Lose it. Exercise? Do it.

I’m sure there are many more we could list but I think you get my point. The start of a school year is a new start – every year. At the start of a year, we are in a new environment with different classmates, roommates, and friends. This allows us to be the person we want to be, rather than the one that others expect us to be, since we’ve been that person for years! So, if you’re ready to be the person you want to be, you’re where you belong…in the beginning. And, as the Moody Blues sang in the song of the same name In the Beginning: “keep on thinking free”.

- Robert O. Weagley, Ph.D., CFP(r)

Chair, Personal Financial Planning

University of Missouri

Columbia, MO 65211